What happens when Mother’s Day rolls around and you realize you’re “not enough.” Given the parents you had, you vowed that when you became a parent you would do things differently. And, you did do things differently. You didn’t work full-time so that you could be the room parent for your children. You showed up at every parent-teacher conference. You cheered at sporting events. Your children had the birthday parties you never had. You invited their friends into your home. You thought being open and honest was the way to go. You provided opportunity upon opportunity for your children that you never imagined as a child. You were always in their corner and you knew how to say “I love you” often. To your surprise, it still wasn’t good enough. So, what now? Does anyone ever get this job right? How long does it take, if ever, before a parent feels successful at the only job where failure is not an option?
Do you think previous generations struggled with this question? Or, is this a new phenomenon? I guess I’m forever left to ponder the answer to those questions. In the meantime, Happy Mother’s Day to all of you who feel less this holiday. I hope your day is wonderful. Like myself, my own mother, all mothers before me and all mothers after me, you did the best you could with what you knew. Maybe, one day, we’ll find out that it was enough after all. In the meantime, how about we forgive ourselves for what we didn’t know!